Cyber communication

What did you say??? What do you mean??? Do you know what you mean??? sometimes we don't know, but others can tell . . . ..
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I've just watched Sarah Jessica Parker, our beloved Carey Bradshaw of Sex and the City do a line from her new movie, out today. . THE FAMILY STORE. She plays an uptight, defensive unlikable character, the absolute opposite of Carey Bradshaw. Her line is this.

"What did I do to you" and the emphasis she gives it is on the word do. as in
:what did I DO to you. . .saying it out loud I find that it's a sincere request for information from a personally vulnerable position. She cares and she wants to know.

All the others are different.
What did I do to YOU. sounds like an accusation.
What DID I do to you sounds like she doesn't think it's worth worrying about
WHAT did I do to you. . .could be made clearer with the addition of the word NOW and suggests impatience with a difficult person.
What did I do to you. . . the I is a bit of a whine not accepting responsibility for whatever it was
the only word that doesn't seem to carry a message, at least for me is the word TO. . .uncomfortable within the context of the others.

So, this is why I find cyber relationships so inadequate and need the use of the telephone to really begin to understand the person on the other end. This in addition to body language and appearance makes this cyber-land into a kind of fairyland, but it's still amazing. I get to talk to and with people from everywhere including YOU.